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Mwanakomana wangu ane makore gumi achangotanga kukura.Pane imwe nguva yandaingotora hembe dzake kana kumupa zvinhu zvakawanda kubva kumwana wamai vangu, asi iye anofarira zvefashoni uye zvinotonhorera.Kunze kwekuve pamwe chete, takava nenguva yakanaka.Mazuva ano, haubvumidzwe kushandisa imba yekupfeka.Ndikamuudza size yehembe dzekuti atenge, haandibvume!Iye mukomana ane scrawny, ndinoda kuva gotwe, uye anogumbuka pandinomuudza mumwe munhu muhombe pane waakaedza kunhonga.Anoda hembe diki… Asi iye zvino ava nemakore gumi chete, uye hembe dzevana diki hadzina kufanira.Takasvika kumba akapfeka saizi yandakasarudza yaienderana neni asi pese pandaiva munhu akaipa uye ndairamba diki diki yaitove nhando muchitoro.Kana saizi yawakapfeka idiki uye idiki, nei ukuru hwakasiyana muchitoro?Ndingati kudii kugadzirisa kusawirirana uku pasina kumurwadzisa?Sei achisimbirira kupfeka hembe diki apererwa?
Wafunga kutenga zvipfeko zvakawanda online?Tichifunga kuti mwanakomana wako haakwanise kuyedza zvipfeko mukamuri yekukiya muna 2020, zvinoita sekunge iwe unogona kudzivirira kuratidzwa uye kusangana neruzhinji, kunyangwe zvichireva kuti uchapotsa dzimwe mbatya dzinonakidza dzekutenga.Iyo dhizaini-yemahara yekudzoka mutemo wezvitoro zvakawanda zvepamhepo zvinowanzoreva kuti iwe unongoda kutenga maviri ega ega bhurugwa, rimwe mudiki saizi, uye wozodzosera mabhurugwa panguva yekutenga.Dambudziko iri rinogona kugadziriswa nyore nyore .Bvuma nokuzengurira kuti zvinobudisa nhau zvakanyatsokodzera.(Imwe mhinduro: ingo raira midhiya uye cheka iyo label asati azviona.)
Ndinobvuma kuti mukomana ane makore 10 okukura anobatwa nemirangariro zvikuru kupfuura vezera rake duku.Handifungi kuti unofanira kukurumidza kuongorora mwana wako kuti ane dambudziko rekudya kana kuti rakaremara, asi ndichanyatsocherechedza kuti anonzwa sei uye kutaura pamusoro pemuviri wake pakutanga kwekuyaruka, uye kuti anoramba achiratidza kusagutsikana nehupenyu hwake. muviri uye pachako Musiyano uripo pakati pemafungiro unokodzera kukurukura nemurapi.
Zvisinei, nemhaka bedzi yomurangariro wake wakasindimara, zvizvarwa zvinoverengeka zvavabereki zvakapedza chinetso chokukura kwomwana namashoko mana amashiripiti: “Uchakura.”Pese panomuka dambudziko iri, ndinokurudzira kuti uzvitumire.
Tichifunga nezve zvese zvinoitika munyika, iyi haisi iyo inonyanya kunetseka nyaya, asi isu tiri kushanda nesimba kuti tifunge nezve nzvimbo yemwana mucheche.Ini nemurume wangu tiri kutarisira mwana wedu wechipiri muna March.Tine mwanakomana ane makore maviri, anozova maviri nehafu kana mwana mutsva asvika.Imba yedu ine dzimba mbiri dzekurara pauriri hwechipiri, uye imba yakapedzwa inozopedzisira yava imwe yemakamuri evana.Imba yekugezera yevana iri pauriri hwechipiri, padyo nekamuri yemwanakomana wangu.Zvino, mwanakomana wedu ari mukamuri riri pedyo nesu.Inenge mwedzi mitanhatu mushure mokuberekwa, mwana mutsva achange ari muimba yedu, asi zvino iwe unofunga kuti ndeipi mhinduro yakanakisisa?Mwanakomana wedu achaita kurovedza potty apo mwana anobva mukamuri yedu, kana tikamuendesa kukamuri yedenga remba, iye achada kutyaira masitepisi akakwirira kuenda kuchimbuzi usiku.Kune rumwe rutivi, kana tikaisa mwana mutsva muimba yepamusoro, tichafudza takatarisa pasi.Tichaisa mwana muimba yedenga kusvikira mwanakomana wangu akura uye agamuchira zvizere kudzidziswa kwepoto?Ndinonetseka pamusoro pekuchinja kunoshamisa apo kamuri rinokura, asi ndinoda kuti mwana wangu mukuru ave nekamuri yedenga remba kwenguva yakareba.Nokufamba kwenguva, unofunga kuti chii chingava chigadzikiso chakanakisisa?
O, zviri nyore kwazvo.Isa mwana muimba yepamusoro.Uchaonga daro diki rekuwedzera, uye mwanakomana wako achafara kuti hapazovi nekuchinja kwakanyanya muhupenyu hwake kwave kuda kuchinja.Iko kutendeuka mukati memakore mashoma kuchava nyore, nekuti mucheche achawana mubhedha wemukoma mukuru uye kamuri yemukuru, nepo mukoma achizova nenzvimbo yake yepamusoro, iyo ichagadziridzwa nekuchenjera kuratidza zvaanoda, uye kumushongedza. nemubhedha muhombe uye wakanaka.
Rinenge gore rapfuura, mhuri yemurume wangu yakatipa kamutambo kaduku kechipo sechipo kuvana vaduku.Ndinovimba vakashandisa mari yakawanda.Takatyira kupindira kwetsika uye takasarudza kuichengeta pashure pekurukurirano dzakawanda.Isu tinoshinga kutaura nezve rusaruraganda nevana, ivo vachiri vadiki kuti vanzwisise kuti sei isu tisina kugadzikana nezvipo.Amai vangu vanogara vachindiudza kuti kana wapa munhu chipo, kuda kwavo uye vanobvunza nehasha.Nekudaro, ambuya vangu vehurumende havaratidzike kugovera kukosha uku.Kwegore rapfuura, anga achibvunza murume wangu kuti sei pasina chero mapikicha atinotumira.Murume wangu aiwanzosimudza nyaya iyi achitaura kuti hatina nzvimbo yakakwana, iyo inogona kana kuti inogona kuva mhinduro yakanakisisa.
Zvisinei, takatama uye ikozvino pane nzvimbo-iye zvino ari kunetseka kurwira kuti sei isu tisati tazvigadzira.Vamwene vangu vangakatyamadzwa norusarura rwavo, kunyange zvazvo ndichidavira kuti tose tine zvitendero zvorusaruraganda uye tinofanira kushanda nesimba kuti tikunde zvitendero izvi.Ndakamunzwa achitaura nezvangu, kunyange zvazvo pasina tsananguro yakajeka.Panguva iyoyo, ndakanyatsomukurudzira kuti afunge nezvezvaaitaura, izvo zvaiita sezvinomushamisa.Asi ndinofunga kuti mamiriro ezvinhu akati siyanei.Akatipa zvipo zvaaifunga kuti zvakanaka.Unogona here kufunga nzira yekugadzirisa dambudziko iri tichichengeta hukama hwedu naye?
Chokwadi une kodzero yekuudza amai vako kuti hausi kugutsikana nechipo chavapa mwana wako.Zvakanakisa, iwe unofanirwa kugadzikana zvakakwana kune mumwe nemumwe kuitira kuti nhaurirano pakati pemapato ese ive nyore uye isina kukanganisa.Ungati, “Munoziva, ndakarava mamwe mabhuku, uye hatidi hedu kuisa pepa renotsi mumba nokuti rinobvisa revo yokushongedzerwa kwetsika dzisiri dzechichena.”Ungataura mashoko emunyori wechizvarwa Chinyorwa chinotsanangura kukuvadza kukuru uku kutyorwa kwetsika kunogona kukonzera kunyange mundima dzinoratidzika kuva dzisingakuvadzi dzakadai sematoyi evana.
Chokwadi, ungadai wakakurukura navamwene vako pavakakupa chipo gore rapfuura.Ndinovimba une!Izvozvo zvingava nyore zvikuru.Zvino, wapedza gore uchirasa chikumbiro chake chezvipo zvevazukuru vake vakanaka kuti vatambe navo.Sekuona kwangu zvikumbiro izvi zvine musoro chose kana zvisiri zvamai vako.Ndevapi mbuya vasingade kuona mapikicha iwayo?Murume wako akabatwa nenhema pakati paamai vari kurwadziwa mupfungwa uye mudzimai asingafariri mai vake nokuti nzvimbo yekukumbira mazano haikwani, zvino iwe wogara panzvimbo yakakura, uye nhema dzabuda pachena. .
Ndinokukurudzira kuti uudze vamwene vako chokwadi pamusoro paTippi zvakajeka uye nemutsa.Nzira ine hushamwari ndeyekutaura naye uye kuona rwendo rwauchafamba narwo pane imwe nguva, kubva pakufunga kuti matoyi akaita saTippi matoyi haakuvadze kusvika pakuziva kuti ipfungwa yakaipa, kwete senge munhu wese akavhenekerwa ane Kungonzwisisa pfungwa iyi. her.Kunze kwekunge pasina mienzaniso iri pachena yekusashivirira uye kusazvibata mutsamba yako, vamwene vako vanotaridzika kunge munhu akura anotapira, akakwana, kunyangwe zvingave zvisina kunaka saamai vako, asi hazvifanirwe kugamuchirwa Kurapa Mazino. .Tsamba yako inoreva kuti unoda kumupa.
Iwe unobata sei nekunzwa kwako kwekugara uchiodzwa mwoyo, kupopota, kana zvimwe zviitiko zvakashata nemwana wako?Ini nemurume wangu tinoshanda kumba uye hatina rubatsiro mukuchengeta vana, saka mwana wedu ane makore 6 anogona kungovaraidza kwemaawa mashoma panguva.Ichi chichangobva kuvandudzwa chiitiko chikuru mumwedzi mishoma yekutanga yekugara kwangu pamba, pandakanga ndichiedza kuda kuti nditarise negokora rake rakamirira.Haana kuzvidzivirira zvizere-ndaimutarisa maminetsi ega ega makumi maviri kana kupfuura (kana kazhinji kana akanyarara), uye takava nenguva yakatarwa ye1: 1 zuva rese.Anotaura ega, anotamba nematoyi, anodhirowa mapikicha, anocheka mapepa kuita zvidimbu zvemirioni, uye anoshandisa matepi asingaverengeki.Zvino shamisa.Asi akaitawo zvinhu zvakawanda zvaasingafaniri kuita: kupenda kumadziro, kuzora maglue akasiyana siyana (glue, toothpaste, hand sanitizer, shampoo, even bhodhoro resunscreen) pane zvese zvinobatika, kugera vhudzi rake, cheka hembe dzake. , siya misodzi kubva mumiti, nezvimwewo.
Ndiri kuona, ari kufinha.Ndinoedza kurega zvinhu zvidiki izvi, kumurega achibatsira kuchenesa tsvina, uye kumururamisa chete kana aita chimwe chinhu chinopambadza kana kuti chine ngozi.Ndakaedza kuita kuti zvandaitarisira zvive pachena uye ndikamupa nzira dzakatenderwa dzekuvhiringidzika, kuedza uye kunyange kuparadza.Nditendei, ini ndinoona kuti izvi zvinonzwika zvisingagutse-vari kusimukira maartist / anarchists / vamiririri vemhirizhonga havadi mhirizhonga yakabvumidzwa kubuda.Mukuongorora kwekupedzisira, inonzwa sokuti hukama huri pakati pedu hwave huripo, sekuti, kwete, usaita izvozvo, usachenese ikozvino, tapota usaparadza, usaita izvozvo.Iyewo akaramba akanditarisa, sokunge ndakanga ndichiparadza mikana yake yose yokufara munyika.Ndinonzwa kuzvidzwa, setsvimbo iri mumatope, uye ndaneta nazvo.ndibatsire!
Gore rino rave rakaomera munhu wese, asi rave rinotyisa zvakanyanya kuvabereki vane vana vadiki.Vana vangu vakura zvekuti prank yavanosangana nayo mukamuri ndeye "murazvo paReddit" pane "kuvhara madziro ezuva" -izvi zvichiri kunetsa, asi zvishoma kuvhiringika.
Ndinofunga kuti mwana wako ane makore matanhatu anogona kunge achiramba "Munhu" zvekuti acharamba chero "yakatenderwa messy nzira yekubuda", asi ndinofunga iwe unogona kunge uine fungidziro.Vana vazhinji vane makore matanhatu havazove mumhirizhonga nekuti ivo Antifa.Sezvamataura, vari kuvhiringa nekuti vari kufinha.Uye zvinogoneka chose kubatanidza dzimwe nguva nenzvimbo dzakatenderwa kuitira kuti bongozozo rive hupenyu hwavo pasina kuvhara.Unogona kufunga kuisa tafura yetara mumba make yakasimudzwa, kana kupenda madziro ake nependi yebhodhi, kana kuvhara imba yekugezera netauro uye kuzivisa zuva nezuva Tamba mumvura na2 pm.
Apo vabereki vako vanonzwa vavhiringidzika sewe, kurukurirano dzako dzose dzinoruramisa.Asi ndinoda kukuyeuchidza kuti izvi hazvisizvo, hongu, avo vakanamatira mumoyo mako, asi ndine chokwadi chekuva nechokwadi chokuti imwe-ye-imwe nguva yezuva haisi kungotuka.Iwe uri kupa rudo rwakawanda nerutsigiro kune budding abstract expressionist, izvo zvinonyatso kuratidzwa mune yake Oscar-akasarudzwa biopic.
Chinhu chokupedzisira: Wakataura kuti iwe nomurume wako mose makashanda muchibva kumba, asi ipapo akanyangarika mutsamba dzenyu dzakanga dzasara.Ndine chokwadi chekuti achapuruzira musoro wake maminetsi makumi maviri ega ega kuti adzivise kufukidza katsi nepolishi yeshangu, handiti?Kana zvisina kudaro, ndapota muyeuchidze kuti hazvina kunaka kuve iwe wega munhu anoshora Little Jackson nekufukidza duvet neketchup, sezvausingafanirwe kunge uri wega munhu anofunga nezve mashandisiro ehupenyu hwemwanasikana wako achifara sezvinobvira.
MuSlate's parenting podcast "Amai naBaba vari kurwa," ngano yenhabvu Abby Wambach nguva pfupi yadarika akapindura mubvunzo kubva kuvabereki vemwana ane makore mana "anga achimhanya zvisingaite".Kufarira kwakasimba kwemitambo.
“Ndinofunga vana pavanobva kunhandare yenhabvu, tinogovana navo zvinhu zvitatu.Chekutanga: Ndinoda kukuona uchitamba.Period.Chechipiri: Unonzwa sei?Unonzwa sei ipapo?Chechitatu: Zvawadzidza nhasi Zvawanga usingazive kare?Ndizvo.Mushure memutambo wenhabvu, iwe unongoda kuudza vana vako izvi, nekuti pane zvimwe zvinhu.Uri kuvaudza zvisina kunanga kuti rudo rwako rwunotsamira pakuti vakanaka here kana kuti vakaipa.Mhirizhonga mudare.Maitiro ese emitambo kukanganisa, kuwirirana, kukanganisa uye kuwirirana. "
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